A few weeks ago I wrote a blog titled, “Women’s Ministries: Why so fluffy?”. (You can read the blog by clicking HERE.) In that blog I addressed the general lack of substance within many women’s ministries. Books, blogs, articles, podcasts, and videos directed towards Christian women tend to focus on two things and two things only: modesty and beauty. It’s frustrating, to say the least.
The irony of the situation is that ever since I published that blog, I’ve had a handful of readers agree with me while simultaneously asking me to address modesty on our site. Initially my thought was, “Why? Why do you want one more modesty blog floating around the internet?” There is already SO MUCH out there addressing the issue that there really is nothing I can say that hasn’t been said a million times before.
Growing up in the church, dressing modestly was drilled into our heads with a list of comically specific rules. No bikinis, no bra straps showing, no belly buttons exposed. We had cute sayings like: lift your arms, touch your toes. If anything shows, go change your clothes. Catchy, eh? You get the idea. As I grew, both chronologically and spiritually, modesty become less about rules and more about reflecting Christ. And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the focus of our discussion.
I don’t believe modesty is about a set of rules. It would seem that modesty is, somewhat, subjective. While I 100% believe in objective morality, when it comes to modesty, I think there is a bit of wiggle room. For example, I never really agreed that a visible bra strap was immodest. Women wear bras and sometimes the straps fall down. Who cares? However, I’m sure some of you reading this may disagree with that and that’s alright. There are women who believe it is immodest to walk around WITHOUT a head-covering. I certainly don’t agree with that, but, I’m just trying to help you see how modesty can be subjective.
For me, modesty is more the naturally occurring byproduct of a life that aims to glorify God. If you are a women (or a man, really) who wants to live a life that glorifies your Creator, you’re likely going to wear clothing that reflects such a goal. You probably don’t have to put much thought into it either. There have been so many times I’ve put on a shirt and thought to myself, “Hmm…that’s a bit low-cut, I’ll put a tank-top underneath.” I didn’t have to go to my Christian-girl rule book and check to see how much cleavage is permissible. No. I looked in the mirror, wasn’t happy with how much skin I was showing, and I changed. It was a simple as that.
I’m really not sure what else I can say on the subject. If you’re concerned that you’re clothing doesn’t glorify God then pray about it. Maybe reach out to a friend or leader in the church for some guidance. But ultimately, I will stand by my stance that modesty begins in the heart. You can check off boxes and follow rules all day long. However, following “rules” doesn’t mean much if your heart is full of wickedness.
Yes, absolutely, modesty matters. Why? Well, because the Bible says so. That is a good enough answer for me. However, if you’re hoping I can provide a set of guidelines, I’m sorry to disappoint, but I’m afraid I can’t do that. I believe you need to get your own heart in the right place and make wise decisions when it comes to your clothing.
So there you have it. For those of you who have been asking, we finally have a modesty blog. If you have any questions or concerns, I’m always here to chat with you all. You can leave a comment on the blog or find us on Facebook.
Take care and God bless.