While this may be hard for some of you to believe (sarcasm), I went through a goth phase in highschool. My father wasn’t thrilled about my new look but my mother didn’t appear to care. As a matter of fact, she seemed to enjoy our frequent trips to Hot Topic. (My mother will tell you, to this day, that she wore black nail polish long before it was cool.)

Part of my goth look was piling on the eyeliner. Black eyeshadow, thick mascara, and eyeliner for days. That was my style. And I LOVED IT. I usually dialed it down a bit for church, but it was still pretty heavy.

One Saturday evening, the pastor’s wife approached me. She said to me, in her thick, southern, drawn-out accent, “Krisssstttiiiinnn, why are you wearing so much makeup? You know, Jesus wouldn’t even recognize you if He came back today!”

The first thought that popped into my head was, “Well, clearly you recognized me, and Jesus is definitely smarter than you so…”

I went round and round with the pastor’s wife. I pointed out that she wears makeup too. She explained that her makeup is more natural so it’s okay. I asked her if there’s a verse in the Bible that says natural makeup was acceptable but heavy makeup was not. That’s when she got my dad and said I was being disrespectful.

So much fuss over eyeliner. To this day, I think the relationship Christian women have with makeup is quite bizarre. We feel we should wear, at least, some makeup, so we look feminine. Because people can’t tell that you’re a girl unless your eyelids sparkle, obviously. But we don’t want to wear too much makeup. We don’t want to appear as if we’re trying to draw attention to ourself.

Please. Just stop.

Look, if you want to wear lots of bold, dramatic makeup, then rock on with your bad self. If you prefer to wear no makeup at all, then don’t. The Bible neither commands nor forbids women from wearing makeup. And as far as your personal style goes, do you really think God cares? Do you really think “natural looks” are more holy than bold or dramatic makeup looks? That is absurd.

1 Peter 3:3-4 says, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth God’s sight.”

Look, here’s what it comes down to.

You can pat yourself on the back for looking presentable and feminine. But, at the end of the day, when you wipe that makeup away, what are you left with? How do you feel about the woman who stares back at you when you look in the mirror? Beneath the image of this perfect Christian woman who would never wear excessive eyeliner, what is there? Is there a woman who strives to be holy and glorify her Creator? Or is there a woman who is insecure and maybe puts other women down because of her insecurities? Perhaps there are some heart issues that need to be dealt with.

We spend so much time fussing over things that don’t matter. We’re missing the point. We follow these bizarre church rules about clothing and makeup. We check off these religious boxes and applaud ourselves for living up to the expectation of others. Perhaps this is distracting us from actually focusing on what truly matters. It seems that we’re more concerned with looking the right way than being who we were made to be.

Perhaps it’s about time that Christian women stop with the absurdity. Maybe we can stop playing the games and pretending like the amount of eyeliner we wear will somehow bring us closer to God. As a matter of fact, when talking about how other women wear their makeup, perhaps we don’t even need to talk about it at all. What do you think?

Take care and God bless

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