There was a song we used to sing in church, when I was a kid. The chorus of the song was:
It’s all about you, Jesus
And all this is for you
For your glory and your fame
It’s not about me
As if you should do things my way
You alone are God
And I surrender
To your ways
I always loved that song. There is a simple yet powerful message: it just isn’t always about me. The Christian life is about surrendering ourselves and aiming to glorify God, through everything we do. (Romans 12:1, 1 Corinthians 10:31)
How often do we sit through a church service and think, “I really didn’t like the songs the worship team did this week? I wish they’d sing more (fill in the blank).” Well, it’s a good thing that worship isn’t about you. It’s about God. God doesn’t care if we sing hymns, out-dating 80s worship, Toby Mac, or if we sing along while an 8-year-old plays “Jesus loves me” on the piano. He just wants us to worship Him. Some weeks, you may love the songs, some weeks, maybe you won’t. It doesn’t matter.
How often do we complain because we didn’t love the pastor’s sermon? Well, again, it’s not always about you. Maybe, just maybe, one of your brothers or sisters in Christ needed to hear that sermon. The church can’t always focus on YOU and YOUR specific wants and needs.
Do we aim to glorify God through our relationships? Our marriage? Our parenting? How about our art? The way we spend our money? The way we spend our time? Or…do we do everything to glorify ourselves?
Do we go to church to be entertained? Or do we go so we can grow in our walk with God? Do we worship so we can hear songs we like? Or do we worship to give God the glory He deserves?
My message to you is simple: quit focusing on yourself so much. (And for what it’s worth, I’m talking to myself as well.) If we stopped living so selfishly, maybe we, as the church, could actually make a difference in this world. When the church binds together to do what God has called us to do, we’re a forced to be reckoned with. But the problem is we don’t bind together. We complain and cry about all the things we don’t like and wish were different.
Take your eyes off yourself for a moment and focus on the divine. Focus on what God has called you to do. Jesus told us that the greatest command is love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself. Every command we’ve been given hinges on those two things. Notice how the greatest command isn’t “Do whatever makes you happy”. No, the greatest command is to love God and love others.
To wrap this up, I don’t mean to imply that you aren’t important, that your voice should be heard, or that your thoughts don’t matter. I’m certainly not implying that you shouldn’t take care of yourself. But, there is a huge difference between taking care of yourself and living selfishly. The modern-day church has become a very selfish bunch of people. Perhaps that’s why so many young people are leaving. If we focused our attention on Christ, instead of ourselves, I truly believe we could accomplish great things.