Women’s Ministries: Why so fluffy?

As I’ve said before, I’ve been a Christian for a long time. Over the years, I’ve sat through countless women’s seminars, retreats, conventions, and conferences. I’ve read an assortment of highly recommended literature with Christian women being the target audience. I’ve even followed a few women’s ministries on social media. Through all this, I’ve started to notice a pattern: women’s ministries are fluffy. No, not fluffy like a kitten. Fluffy as in seriously lacking substance.

At the rate we’re going, we’re going to start seeing tutorials on how to wing your eyeliner to glorify God. It’s getting rough out there, girls. Admittedly, I’m being a bit hyperbolic, but my general sentiment remains: there isn’t much of substance for Christian women.

Women’s ministries, generally, tend to focus on two things: modesty and beauty. Either we’re being given tips on finding a fashionable and modest summer wardrobe, OR we’re being reminded that we’re a beautiful, sparkly, precious diamond. Now, before anyone takes offense, I’m not implying those are bad topics of conversation. I’m saying that should not be our only topic of conversation.

Despite my upbringing in church, there was so much I didn’t know. For example, I had absolutely no idea how to read and study my Bible. No one had ever taught me. I found myself just reading Psalms over and over and over. As much as it pains me to admit this, I didn’t read any of the prophetic books of the Bible until I was in my 20s. But, I did know how to find a cute bathing suit for summer that would glorify God! I knew that Christians girls should never wear black lipstick or sparkly eyeshadow (natural colors only, obviously.)

It would also seem that most Christian women only aim to chase an emotional experience instead of coming to a firm understanding of God’s Word. We want to cry at the altar and feel the presence of God, but we don’t want to increase our knowledge. Again, please don’t misunderstand me. I’m not saying it’s bad to become emotional (I cry all the time), but we shouldn’t just be chasing an emotional experience. It seems that if we don’t cry in church, we think our faith is lacking or we aren’t truly experiencing God.

Why don’t we see 3-day women’s seminars that focuses on how to properly interpret and apply Scripture? Where is the women’s conference that addresses Christian history? Why don’t more women’s ministries sell books that teach women some Greek or Hebrew? Perhaps, it’s time for a change in women’s ministries within the Christian Church.

Biblical womanhood goes beyond modest clothing and makeup. Why not start learning about God’s calling for us women? Why don’t we start to study what it truly means to be a Christian woman? I hope, I pray, we start to see some material that’s more substantial for women. I truly believe that Christian church needs it. Women are a crucial part of the church and our spiritual growth should be important to us.

What are your thoughts? Are women’s ministries too fluffy? Do we need some more substantial information out there for women? Is it time for women’s ministries to have a bit of an overhaul? Let us know your thoughts! We love to hear from you all!

God Bless!

23 thoughts on “Women’s Ministries: Why so fluffy?

  1. In recent decades; complementarianism has surged in popularity. One of it’s main ideas is that a husband is the spiritual leader of his home; and to that end, it’s essential that he knows more than his wife about spiritual matters. So women aren’t taught a lot of heavy theology because it’s their husband’s job to teach them whatever he thinks she needs to know. That leaves ideas like Biblical womanhood to reinforce concepts of submission to authority, obeying his instruction, and the importance of letting the head be the leader and modesty teachings as the safe bets of what women can teach other women. Fortunately, there’s this lovely thing called the internet and it doesn’t do a gender check; women can learn what the men learn; and if feeling adventurous, more than what the men learn from various sources and not just the pre-approved ones on the denomination’s list.
    The problem with women learning church history is that they might discover that women were more than just wives and mothers in the ancient church; some women were astute theological teachers who had men referred to them because they could better explain spiritual matters than even the most studied of men, they had their own ministries that paved the way for women to have a kind of leading role in the church, women opened up the earliest of hospitals, and some even took to wandering the deserts leaving everything behind to focus solely on God. It stands opposed to complementarianism’s declaration that God wants all women to be wives and mothers only.

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    1. Even under the umbrella of complementarianism, I will argue that is dangerous for a women to avoid studying theology on her own. You can’t be aware of false teaching if you don’t actually know what the Bible says. When we look at some of the women of the Bible, we don’t see fragile, timid wall flowers. We see women that we’re strong and courageous. I’m not sure how Biblical womanhood has become synonymous with weak and stupid. Further more, not every woman wants to be a wife and a mother. That’s okay. The church needs single women (and men) too. Usually, these are the folks who are constantly available and get stuff done!
      Thank you for your input. God bless


      1. Well, between you and I, I believe the church (specifically in America) is in desperate need of an overhaul. I actually had a woman from my church tells me that “I’m too young to give up on my appearance”. 1. Rude. 2. Who I am in Christ is not defined by how well I flick my eyeliner. I seriously wanted to bang my head off the wall. I’d be willing to bet that Deborah and Esther are rolling in their graves…but what do I know?


      2. Probably too much for your own good – same as me 🙂
        The problem is that it’s really hard to have a conversation. I had one started with this other Christian, but when I identified her specific belief as originating in a paper from the 1970s, she ended the conversation and didn’t want to hear any more of it. So many are content with being big fish in little ponds that they want nothing more out of life.


      3. It is definitely hard to have conversations. The second I disagree with someone, I usually get blocked or attacked. IMO, that’s spiritual immaturity. For what it’s worth, I welcome your thoughts, comments, and critiques. I won’t block you or yell at you 😉


  2. Just a quick comment from a guy’s perspective…when I look at the advertisements for many of the churches in my area, I see courses designed for women that are led by the wife of the pastor who is “in ministry” with her husband. They are always about either (1) being a modest young lady or (2) realizing full potential as “God’s diamond”…just exactly as you said! I thought I was the only one who noticed stuff like that! (And honestly, I really can’t count those two topics as being “in ministry.” Is that okay to say?)


  3. I would love to see other topics addressed! (lol it tried to changed “addressed” to dressed— ahem, we are trying to change the subject here…) I personally would love to hear modesty addressed (since we don’t really get that much round here), but I totally agree that things feel “fluffy”, especially in high school groups. We want dynamite. We are willing to follow the craziest God call and change the world, but we’re never gonna make this marathon if all we get to eat is cotton candy! <— mini rant. See I need to start my bog. Bye!


      1. Maybe! I’m currently struggling to set up my blog (lots of struggle), but would love to be part of a passionate Jesus loving and following community! Is there a way we could communicate? 🙂 Just so we’re not clogging up the comment section. 😉


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  5. Amen! It’s not that dressing modestly and other “women’s issues” are irrelevant… It’s that we are so much more than that and God wants so much more than that for us! Ironically, I was never taught modesty. Except how to sit in a chair. In fact, the Holy Spirit finally taught me what modesty really meant (but not until after I entered my 40s) because my church never did! But He’s also been teaching me that modesty encompasses a lot more than how we dress. It’s about how we live. It’s about the influences and priorities we allow to consume us. But I’m getting ahead of myself. I just joined this forum, and I’m sure I’ll be blogging about that soon. 😉


  6. Yes! Yes, yes, yes. I am a relatively new Christian, which feels odd to say since I’ve identified as Christian all of my life. But I’m new. Trust me…all the stuff from before was fluff-only. My real faith started in late 2016.

    Anyway, my GOODNESS, you have nailed my feelings and observations with this post. I’ve gotten to the point where I just flatly reject most of the women’s ministry stuff that’s out there. I want theology and deep Scripture study and fellowship with other women who want the same things. And it just isn’t there.

    You’re giving me hope! I’m not crazy and I’m not the only one. Ha ha. Thanks for writing this.


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